The United Nations (UN)
The Love Speak for ME Teen Dating Violence (TDV) project aims to raise awareness and educate youth about the dangers of teen dating vilolence. Although TDV is a taboo subject, Love Speak for ME approaches the topic with LOVE, reaching young people through activities that enable them to realize their self worth and human potential. We have a heartfelt commitment to their health, welfare and safety.
Always advocating, since 2005 we have supported more than 20,000 teens with OUR “Love Speak for ME” Teen Dating Violence (TDV) awareness, education and prevention project. Teens age 12-24 increase their opportunities to develop healthy dating relationships. We provide unique, culturally competent, innovative workshops, focus groups, speaking engagements, research and advocacy kindled by a passion to improve teen health, welfare and safety. Love Speak for ME does makes a difference, according our pre and post tests.! Please we need your support of time, talent or resources. You can financially support our work with a donation, at PayPal on this site.
- Investing in our adolescent thru college girls to equip them with needed skills + confidence, to increase their life options: Working thru families, schools, vocational assessments, health education and training to improve their health, social and economic support systems;
- Continuing advocacy to make violence against girls and women highly visible and unacceptable both in all domains;
- Strengthening data measurement and evidence based learning to insure cultural competency and empower empower
- Developing culturally relevant services, information and health education to meet their needs for improved health, welfare and safety
- Facilitation of adolescent- college age women/girls, to engage in civic, economic and political life, as social change agents;
We have witnessed diminishing rights of children to live in a violent free society, obtain a quality education, declines in health status, increasing child and welfare dependence, poverty and major safety reduction. All impede the right to live and compete in a global environment . Young women in low-income black and brown girls are disproportionately victims of dating violence and rape. Women ages 20-24 are at greatest risk of nonfatal domestic violence. Women ages 24 and under suffer from the highest rates of rape. The Justice Department estimates that one in five women will experience rape or attempted rape during their college years, and that less than five percent of these rapes will be reported. Income is also a major factor: the poorer the community, the higher the risk of teen dating violence (TDV). Young women in the lowest income category experience more than six times the rate of nonfatal intimate partner violence (IPV) compared to women in the highest income brackets. When race is considered African-American women face higher rates of intimate partner violence than all others combined. American-Indian women are victimized at a rate more than double that of women of other races. Our daughters depend on us as adults to create a desirable and safe environment.
When dreaming of having Asia in the early 1980’s I pondered what kind of world would exist when she became of age. I never would have guessed she would only live to age 21, at a time of significant decline in the status of girls, young women, in all media (music, games, tv) . She was thrilled to reach legal voting age. Asia was ready to put her undergraduate education in psychology to then pursue a masters degree, in the caring nursing profession. Asia was very excited about exercising her rights as a responsible, well educated, prepared and supported young woman. Then suddenly, POOF in the blink of an eye, she became the ultimate TDV victim by a young man she was dating, as she was breaking up with him. He and his friend decided to rob, then kill Asia. She became Philadelphia’s ### Femicide victim on November 7, 2004.
Suddenly, my eyes were wide opened. I watched the environment quickly move towards diminishing respect for young women, particularly women of color. I saw a paradigm shift where violence became an acceptable way of life, a culture where games (too many) children play have devolved into how to rape a girl or young women. A culture where girls and young women are routinely referred to as derogatory names in much of the music and most visual images. Now routinely OUR Daughters are routinely referred to as b$tch, a phenomena they’ve grown to accept as normal. What? While the number of TDV victims began spiraling out of control .
As a young women of color, coming of age after the 60’s civil rights, or 70’s Peace and Women’s movements/ to now watch OUR Rights as Women disintegrate, WE must respond, and become vigilant about this negative imagery of girls and young women, left for future interpretation! These images of OUR girls clearly objectify them as body parts, versus thinking feeling, virtuous young women. Clearly disrespectful. This ongoing denigration of young women, is now an unacceptable norm.
Unlike many middle class educated minorities, we did not migrate to the suburbs, away from urban Philadelphia, firmly believing in the WEB Dubois Talented Tenth concept that the educated among us should remain in the community, supporting the people, children and build healthier and better communities.
But as urban communities have a higher concentration of too many children with multiple psycho social educational dysfunction, higher concentrations of poverty, political systems that don’t prioritize the needs of non voting children, decaying societal norms, increasing crime rates, increasing abuse of substances and alcohol to self medicate from psychological pain and abuse, increased risk of violence for just attending school. Diminishing culturally sensitive psychological, educational, and social supports, doesn’t add up positively for OUR girls. With an approximate 50% graduation rate in Philadelphia), reduced academic performance in the basics of reading + writing, their understanding the basic necessities of cooking, organizing a household, a not engaging educational system that hasn’t advanced with the technology, leads to a continuum of uneducated children, unprepared and ill equipped to provide for themselves. Combined with a lack of culturally sensitive psychological, sociological supports, too many end up in prison, on drugs, self medicating, homeless and a burden to society.
This is conjunction with a record numbers of children involved in child welfare systems due to parental absence, drug use, imprisonment, urban children are riddled with far too many life challenges, unprepared. It’s a basic Human Right (per the UN 1940 treaty) that children obtain a quality education, be healthy, and live in a world where violence is not the norm. Children depend on adults to support the creation of safe and healthy environments. Adults must engage their children with often difficult to have conversation, increase their civic engagement by attending town meetings, create and sign petitions and actively engage in the process. call the attention of elected officials to support public education, health, safety, and become a voice for OUR Children without voice. Sometimes its needed to adopt a young parent too, to provide a supportive community, that prioritizes the health of OUR children, OUR daughters, OUR future…… Let’s do whatever we can to support and Save OUR children. Sign our petitions, share our website link, like us on facebook, have us speak to your group, volunteer with us. Call us at 215 438 1840 or email AsiaAdams21@gmail.com. Much Love!