By this time the result of my prior work, I had become an expert in health insurance payments for all kinds of health and human service providers. It was a natural progression to start and manage my own business full time. This would allow me the flexibility to attend to my daughter’s school to observe classwork, go on class trips, and show up unexpectedly. No way was I going to leave something as important as my child’s education, up to a teacher I didn’t personally know or have an idea of their values regarding children and education. So I showed up in class to see. I know this kept many a teacher on their toes. Occasionally, I would run across one or two that needed to be whipped into shape and become clear that this mom wasn’t playing with her child’s education. Although not intentionally, regrettably, I had a few teachers terminated, principals involvement in assessments, and a host of modifications like sending my 7th grader to Drexel University Math Diagnostics to be tutored by a college professor. This was to insure she got it. While I had an MBA, 7th grade math was challenging after so many years. The demands of self employment including writing proposals for funding, getting contracted work completed with quality, juggling multiple clients, balancing how many I could successfully handle at one time was truly a learning curve Forget a personal life. This was it. In all sincerity it was so rewarding. My child’s education thrived, my business thrived, and while busy, there was never a dull moment, I was pleased with the outcome.
In efforts to overstand- how I could be most productive I sought advice from elders- usually male as at that time I knew few black women in business, who could advise me.. A few times I had an opportunity to sit with a wise and successful man known as the Father of Leaders, Mr. Sam Evans, founder of AFNA. What he told me something, I’ll never forget. “We all have 24 hours in a day- 8 we spend working- 8 sleeping- 8 we need to be certain how we use this time. If you need extra time, take it away from sleep and be careful how we use the rest. I interpreted this to mean, put the child to bed and work some more, throughout the night if needed. I follow his advise until this day. He also asked me, “What does living Holy mean”. As I stumbled with my reply, he shook his head no, then Mr. Evans said, ” living Holy means Higher Order Living- Yield”. That made even more sense. From the wisdom of the elders.
Please review what a colleague Helen Tinsley, now working on her doctorate, has to say about Creativity and Balance as a woman. http://theliterarytearoom.blogspot.com/2013/08/academia-vs-creativity-finding-balance.html – Hope you gain insight into how to handle all this stuff.